Email in Real Life

“Email can be frustrating” Thanx to Tripp and Tyler it can also be incredibly entertaining. In particular if you take a few steps back and are ready to touch your own nose when it comes to a few unnecessary and annoying habits. But how to fight bad habits in emailing or in life in general?
Watch closely how these two guys can help you! First there is a gathering of real life situations – only here they translate what goes on electronically and visible only on your computer screens into an office environment where people interact with each other face to face in the same way they do via email. That’s the funny part!

In a second step you might become aware of all the little things that can make this media cumbersome and at times unhelpful. Raising awareness really is the most important step to remedy. If you are able to develop insight into what is going on in your company’s and your own email communication, then you can use this knowledge to analyze your situation from a distance.
Look! What you see are snippets of behavior. Change some of it and you might be able to feel differently about sending and receiving email. You can start by making small differences and to create good habits. There are many ways to overcome bad habits. You can – for example – call someone briefly and just tell her/him about your opinion – thereby omitting to send an email reply to the whole DL and reduce redundant email information easily.

Sabbatical 2/3

Know your distractions as if your life depended on it!
So you take time off work and want to make the best out of it? Be mindful of some of the things that might hinder you making the most out of your time. Knowing your distractions can help you to steer clear.
Reflect back on last week. Where and how did you spend time on activities that were not in sync with your aspirations? Now ask yourself: did you make a conscious decision to spend time on those activities? And did you stick to that time? You will find that very often this is not the case. You need to develop the awareness of where you put your focus of attention and then having the courage to remember what you actually wanted to do. This as the ultimate path to being satisfied with your sabbatical in particular and your life in general. Funny enough, the same basic principle as applies to simple awareness of breathing exercises and other mindfulness practices.
Being effective – The courage to remember
Having the end in mind is essential for your mental balance and in order to formulate aspirations which can guide you day by day and week by week. Only the definition of clear and measurable intentions enables you to keep track of your course. Clear goals – like “I want to read one chapter of a book per day” or “I want to run 30km per week” – are measurable and achievable yet give you the freedom of how you allocate your time within a day or a week.

Conference Calls in Real Life

Thanx to Tripp and Tyler we can finally look at what we do during our daily office hours with much more perspective, lightheartedness and mindful experience. And yes, it can be fun to do so. What these two guys do time and again, is to reflect the sometimes awkward truth back to us – often merciless.
We witness Tripp getting caught up in the universe of technical, emotional and human pitfalls happening to people in a conference call. He tries to bring colleagues together, but time is up before the call can technically start with all participants dialed in.

A lesson learned out of this rather discouraging experience might be for Tripp to contact the main stakeholders in his project directly in 1:1 calls and to clarify any tasks and measure progress. Here however it seems that people are not fully engaged in the process and lack interest in the participation overall.
Conference calls proof efficient when the people invited have an active interest to call in. This is the case for example in townhall-like events, where the majority of attendees joins to receive first hand information or wants to use the call as a platform to ask questions and to address concerns. Also a good way of leveraging this tool is to poll the participants on a given topic or decision making.
Furthermore, it must be the target for the organizer to communicate the purpose of the meeting and each participant’s role and expectation to contribute beforehand and in a clear manner.

Sabbatical 1/3

How to be effective in Doing Nothing
A client of mine decided beginning of this year to ask her employer for a six months sabbatical and received the approval. Since then I am more aware of the topic and the implications that come with it. Most people want time off work because they sense that they need change of some sort and they somehow feel that they hadn’t addressed certain areas in their lives in a way that fully represented their values, i.e. spending time with family. (I hope that I am clear by writing vague enough)
Setting the targets
The more you are clear about how you want to spend the time and what you want to achieve during your time off work, the more fulfilling and meaningful will your experience become.
You want to ask yourself, how you will know that you have spent the time worthwhile? What will people close to you notice about you during the time and afterwards? How will the time rub off on you personally and professionally?
Be cautious of trying to do too much. Is it realistic to learn Spanish, sailing the world with family and explore new business ideas at the same time within 6 months? Discuss the feasibility of your targets with the people around you.
Before you throw yourself into “Doing absolutely nothing” or “Finally doing what you always wanted to do” it helps a lot to identify: what are your biggest fears with regard to the time off work? What would it mean to you, if those fears come true? How will you feel? Whom can you confide in? And then apply an attitude of gratitude to these fears. What happens to your fears when you see the time that you have as a gift and also a responsibility? What do you wish to receive from the world around you? And what do you want to give back?

MY NON-ANIMATED WEBSITE – for your benefit!

A friend of mine recently asked me, why I don’t update my website. I was taken aback as I thought my site was down or not displaying the content I had up and running the way I remembered it to be. I went online to check if I could still find my professional profile as a counselling psychologist. Yes. Could potential clients still find that I am offering psychotherapy for individuals and relationship counselling for couples? yes.
So I called my friend back and told him that there is nothing wrong with my online presentation. He then said that he thought I needed a re-vamp in layout and functionality of the site. I thought about this and came to a clear conclusion: No, I do not need to animate my website and enable social media connectivity, live-chat, currency exchange converter, weather forecast or webcam of the basil growing on my kitchen sill (well, let me think again about the latter!).
As you have probably noticed by now, my website is not animated. There are no moving framed, spinning images or changes in background colour and wallpaper motives. There is no pop-up window that asks you in a 10-seconds interval if you want to subscribe to my newsletter – no matter how often you click “No thanx”. There is no advertisement that you have to watch for a few seconds before you reach the content that you actually wanted to see. No such thing. My website is a very conservative – yeah boring – website.
THIS IS MEANT TO BE LIKE THAT. FOR YOUR BENEFIT!!!
Thank you very much,
Sebastian
Please refer to the video below to assure yourself what can happen with too much animated information on your screen!

PURPOSE IN LIFE – part one and a half – finding purpose

Remember the purpose statement attempt from last week?

Here is more. And more hands-on.

Read through the following questions to better understand the implications of having purpose in life:

Do I have a sense of genuine happiness that glows deep inside of me?

Do I feel clear minded about the things I do – with the clarity coming easy to me?

Is it natural for me to come up with projects to grow, evolve, enhance or change what I do?

Do others seek me as an expert, teacher or consultant?

Have I never felt boredom – ever?

Am I relaxed and at ease with myself?

Am I less concerned about the daily news and have reduced reading newspapers?

Do I feel that I can choose my distractions wisely and consciously?

Does my mind become creative during leisurely activities?

When holidays end, do I look forward to going back to where I came from?

If you answer most of these questions with yes, then you very likely have found some kind of purpose in life. If not, find people around you who do answer these questions with yes!! Do it now! Because you are running out of time!!

Let me know whom you found. 

Here examples of purpose statements which were the outcomes of an exercise we did in one of my men’s groups: 

Purpose Statement 1 – Director Communications – Financial Industry

“My purpose in life is to make a positive contribution to the world by creating engaging and visually appealing messages [texts, photos, videos], to analyze, tell the truth, and to coach and mentor others so that they have the opportunity to excel in their jobs and in life.”

“My purpose in life is to help people cope, develop and heal by leading meaningful conversations and encounter individuals, couples and groups with empathy and enthusiasm.”