The Mindful Men

“The Mindful Men Group offered a unique escape from the usual stressful work and social life particularly in Hong Kong. Under Sebastians thoughtful facilitation a trusted group of friends was formed. A journey towards increased self awareness and ownership while also receiving practical and relevant advice. Time truly well spent!”

Paul, Consultant

“The men’s group has provided me with an excellent opportunity to cultivate self-awareness and accountability in daily life. Honest weekly conversations with committed peers – and just the right amount of professional guidance – remind me how much other men share my deepest concerns. We are able to cut through the bullshit and get to the truth about who we are and what we want out of life.”

Thomas Vinton, American Musician and Educator


Men’s Group 8-week program Fall 2019

The group size is limited to 8 men. The men are typically 35y to 55y having some sort of matured career in Hong Kong and dealing with ups and downs in life.

  • Time: Tuesdays from 8pm to 10pm
  • Dates: September 10, 17, 24 October 8, 15, 22, 29 November 5
  • Location: Lan Kwai Fong Central Hong Kong
  • Facilitator: Sebastian Droesler
  • Cost: HKD4000

PROGRAM DESCRIPTION

Imagine the valuable feedback and challenging input you get from a non-BS group of guys. Joining a group of likeminded men is a powerful way of getting to know yourself better.

Men have a great power of understanding and being understood by other men. A group consisting of men aims at eliminating distraction and competition and provides greater ease in discussing personal issues.

The program will draw in parts from Sebastian’s training in Mindfulness-based Cognitive Training and include evidence-based methods of teaching mindfulness.

Sebastian has worked with hundreds of men and facilitates men’s groups since 2010. Participants will benefit from his smooth guidance, therapeutic inputs and experienced choice of themes and exercises.

You will benefit from being encouraged and challenged by the group in

  • Finding yourself and your purpose
  • Changing what you always wanted to change
  • Bringing attention to your roles, relationships and unfinished business
  • Feeling more empowered and self-aware
  • Learning how to deal with your feelings while keeping your male identity

A men’s group is a place outside your usual circles. It is also a place to learn and practice mindfulness with a focus on relationships at large and self-awareness in particular

Watch the video to better understand what it is all about. Participants answer the most frequent questions.

What participants say:

The mindful men’s group provided me a space to share, explore and develop ideas about living well. It was not only supportive and uplifting, but useful on many levels. I’d recommend it without hesitation.

Ben L, Market Maker

I looked forward to our weekly meetings. Each session was challenging, revealing and uplifitng and helped me to better understand myself and those around me. Most importantly, the sessions were fun and engaging. Highly recommended.

Scott, Lawyer

“I joined the Mindful Men group without really knowing what to expect and I enjoyed every single moment of it. This was a unique experience allowing me to take breaks from HK crazy life and to share my personal challenges in a totally safe, respectful and fun environment. Sebastian gathered a group from all different backgrounds, with so much to learn from each other and yet having a lot in common. I already miss our group sessions but have met some great men to keep in touch with… I totally recommend the experience.”

Pascal D. 35

I have participated in both of the last two men’s groups with Sebastian and returned because of the level comradery I’ve experienced. Under Sebastian’s guidance, it’s great to meet guys who are both so similar, yet so different, to me in many ways, and find common ground as we explore the challenges we face in life. It’s the kind of meaningful conversation you don’t ordinarily find just hanging out with mates at a pub, and something I feel is sorely lacking in today’s society, not just between men, but between fellow humans as a whole.

Steve, 42, Medical Communications Manager

 In my experience, us men were not raised to open to each other about deep issues we face. We lost in modern times the concept of tribe, and randomness doesn’t always allow us to build one that is truly supportive. As a result, we walk alone in many key parts of our lives.

This is a blind spot. There is nothing like the advice of a trusted fellow man to cut through the rationalizations we imprison ourselves in. And one of the greatest gifts we can give in return is to help our male friends be equally honest to themselves.

I found in Sebastian’s groups a forum to meet other men interested in their personal development and a common drive to support each other in many challenges we face. It is a safe space to expose our trials without judgment and find a friendly ear. Also, a place to apply our judgment and unique views to advice others, while learning how to do so with mindfulness and respect.

Basically this group is a starting point for us who value developing a positive and healthy masculinity. One based on ownership of one’s thoughts and beliefs, awareness of our position in life, and kindness to others. Welcome to the men’s tribe.

G.I.


mensretreat

MINDFUL MEN’S RETREAT

In the beautiful and cooler Highlands of Thailand

Pai close to Chiang Mai 5-days

2019 DATES TO BE ANNOUNCED

Group size limited to 8 men

Registration on first come, first served basis

Fee HKD4200*

This men’s retreat is for every man, who wants to immerse in a time and space fully dedicated to himself and his journey through life.

The retreat offers intensive concentrated group work as well as ample time alone to work on your self-development in order to answer one question: “What do I want?”

The group will consist of men with a matured career and living situation. All of them dealing with opportunities, distractions and challenges of life.

Together we will grasp the existential concepts of freedom, isolation, meaning and death, while skillfully making the transfer into the here and now, our days and weeks.

Engaging and exchanging intensively in a group of likeminded men you are typically aiming at …

  • Centering your self in mind and body
  • Focusing on your personal, professional and relationship development
  • Asking and answering existential questions
  • Finding and cultivating your masculine edge beyond work and family
  • Dealing with feelings while keeping your male identity
  • Becoming a better version of who you are today
  • Opening awareness through guided mindfulness meditations

Sebastian has worked with hundreds of men and facilitates men’s groups since 2010. Participants will benefit from his smooth guidance, therapeutic inputs and experienced choice of themes and exercises.

The men’s retreat takes place in Pai/Northern Thailand close to Chiang Mai. The area is lush green, quiet and offers plenty of great food in a laid back surrounding – without sauna clubs, karaoke or any other of the usual annoyances of Thailand’s mainstream locations.

You can choose from a great variety of accomodation from backpackers and bamboo huts to 5star resorts. Do expect prices for accommodation and meals to be way lower than in the rest of Thailand while offering high standards.

Pai also offers a wide range of outdoor activities such as rafting, hiking, hill tribes, elephant riding, waterfalls, hot springs, …   http://allaboutpai.com

AGENDA

5-Day Retreat

7:00 – 8:00 morning meditation and mindful movement (optional)

8:00 – 12:00 men’s group work (refreshments provided)

12:00 – 17:00 afternoon for activities and exploration (time alone optional)

17:00 – 19:00 dinner and time alone

19:00 – 21:00 evening debriefing, group talks and meditation

* Please note, that all flights and accommodation have to be arranged by yourself at your own risk and responsibility. Transport pick-up and drop-off at Chiang May Int. Airport can be arranged individually or for groups of men arriving with similar flight times.

Prepare for Scooter rental to get around Pai easily (there is not much traffic and all venues and surroundings are generally quiet and calm).