- Couples Skill Building with Alain De Botton - Here is a nice read . For 200 Hong Kong Dollar I bought Alain De Botton’s latest Novel and found it entertaining, therapeutic and insightful. Well worth a read for anyone in a committed relationship with many references to marital counselling, relationship skill building and couples therapy. De Botton describes a marriage over the course […]
- Upcoming Events in 2017 - Eli Buren will teach two trainings in Hong Kong in April 2017
COUPLEMENTARY episode three - Previously on couplementary: HE wanted to bring up his dissatisfaction with her and expected some sort of an acknowledgement. HE yielded HER anger and the situation escalated. Usually when we achieve the opposite of what we intended, we get annoyed. Very annoyed. From the outside and with a little distance these are often situations that […]- This is the story of two people who turn into foxes and what happens after that … - In this video we can observe developmental stages of a relationship – symbiosis, differentiation and practicing. Two people who like each other enter into a prolonged state of symbiosis – here artfully outlined and animated as the transformation of both partners into foxes. Their different likes, character traits and pastimes are highlighted shortly only to […]
COUPLEMENTARY episode two - Previously on couplementary: In episode one we started to follow HIM into a scene in which HE feels repeatedly falsely accused by HER within a short time span. What now unfolds is the signature version of their infinity loop of unhelpful emotional interaction. It is really unfortunate for the two that HIS coffee arrived first […]- The Complacency Catch - Did you do better than last year? Does that mean you rock? Does that mean you master what you do? This is a story about complacency. Here is how I painfully found out about having become complacent twice during the course of a few years – and this only with regard to my swim training. […]
COUPLEMENTARY episode one - My target as an emotion-focused therapist for couples is to find out and define the signature “dance” of each couple I am working with. With regard to relationship issues it does not matter if I am working with both partners or if I am seeing an individual. The approach in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) remains […]- The Urban Epidemic: Stress in Hong Kong - Part II – Unwinding the daily grind There is no miracle shortcut way to combat stress in the city. We all know we’re trapped in the daily grind, but we have to break that monotomous cycle! Make time (not find it) for simple activities that will make a positive difference to your life. Lifestyle changes […]
- The Urban Epidemic: Stress in Hong Kong - Part I – High-pressure work culture Stress is all too common in our lives, especially for those of us living the busy city life. The hectic Hong Kong lifestyle drains our time to cope with stress. According to the Census and Statistics Department, Hong Kong people work a massive 600 hours MORE per annum than […]
- Couples Counselling – Does it help? - Most of the couples I work with do get better, because they develop a new skill set of communication. After a few sessions partners often start to find themselves to be much more attuned with each other. The reason being a deeper emotional understanding. It often happens that one of the partners is a […]
