Are you facing sudden difficulties or feeling stuck and frustrated in your long-term relationship or marriage?
I will work with you whether you are currently facing a crisis or your relationship has become increasingly difficult for you over time. Or both.
“Our first year in Hong Kong was challenging for each of us individually, and the stress of dealing with our own challenges left us little energy to work on our relationship. We tried and tried but felt stuck. After trying to deal with these difficulties on our own, the frustration drove us to seek for help. Sebastian helped us learn how to express our emotions clearly to each other, and therefore to find where lies the difficulty. He helped us communicate better and understand each other better …
Ayana & Nave
In order to enhance your communication and to reduce stressful arguments and frustrating quarrels, I will typically guide you through a three stages process. In my approach to couples counselling my ambition is for you to develop the ability to identify where and how you get stuck. In addition, you will learn what to do and not to do in order to overcome your marital or relationship problems and to return quickly to a smooth and healthy living. Ultimately, you will be able to handle challenges together as a couple but on a higher level of understanding.
… We both became more aware of each other’s emotional needs, and therefore the communication became gentler and smoother, which left us more time and energy to just enjoy each other. After several sessions with Sebastian in a couple of months’s time, we felt the great change in our relationship. Before, we spent lots of our time and energy to “deal with” or “solve” things in our relationship, now we spend them on loving and enjoying together.Thank you so much for helping us learn and improve as partners and lovers – every hour with you had paid off big time.”Ayana & Nave
Any crisis in and around a couple puts strain and hurt on partners and spouses. My therapeutic support helps both of you to understand the full magnitude of what happened and to gain insight from various perspectives on any marriage issue and relationship challenges. Furthermore, it brings to light the basis of your being together and the damage caused. I will then help you to heal and repair your bond based on mutual awareness.
Target is to build trust, to develop emotional safety and to teach sustainable communication skills that shield and solidify the unity of your relationship. Scientific evidence has shown that approaches like Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), which focus on a couple’s experience, are most successful. EFT follows a clear process from assessment to solution and leverages decades of research in humanistic approaches and systems theory as well as groundbreaking findings in the psychology of attachment.
“Although we all agree in principle that our partners have their own points of view and their own valid perceptions, at the emotional level we are reluctant to accept this simple truth.” H. Hendrix – Getting the love you want.